HOW TO BE A BESPOKE GENTLEMAN

Updated: Mar 12

Do you want to discover why being a gentleman is so important? Many people believe that the gentleman's era has passed them by like an extinct species. The gentleman, in fact, has done so. I've always been taught to respect my elders, but most importantly, I've always been taught to respect women. Taking up the role of the gentleman comes with a set of responsibilities. First and foremost, you must respect yourself. How can you expect others to appreciate you if you don't respect yourself?

Second, no matter how insulting they may be, always respect women. Many times, women do not want to be contacted, talked to, or helped, and they can be extremely unpleasant when they refuse a man's offer. Don't take anything personally; maintain your gentlemanly demeanour, thank them for their time, and go properly and graciously. Number three, always try to make her smile with small gestures. For example, open the door for her, give her your coat if it's too cold, hold her hand if you detect danger, and wipe food from her lips if she doesn't realise she has it.


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A gentleman is considerate, protective, compassionate, and amusing. I recall being with one of my friends when a man on the corner asked for money. My friend didn't have much cash on him, but he handed the man everything he had. "Because I have a job and he doesn't," he said when I inquired why he did it. His acts were compassionate, considerate, selfless, and courteous. He possessed the qualities of a gentleman.

Fourth, a gentleman does not have to be a gentleman simply while dealing with ladies. He can also be a gentleman to a man. A gentleman will assist an elderly person with mowing their lawn, carrying groceries, or washing their automobile. Above all, a gentleman will always be able to make you smile, and if he is unable to do so, he will at the very least walk away respectfully. That is why being a gentleman is so vital. Following are a few things to focus upon so as to understand how to be a thorough gentleman.



1.) HYGIENE MAINTENANCE


When a gentleman is out in public, he looks and smells well. Sweating while working out is one thing, but not while out and about. Before you go out, make sure you take care of your body and that you look polished and clean.

It doesn't matter how attractive you are or how nice your clothing is if you don't smell clean and fresh. It's critical to establish good hygiene so that people aren't distracted by an unpleasant odour or appearance.

After using the restroom, wash your hands. By limiting the spread of sickness, a gentleman looks after himself and others. If you avoid the sinks, other males in the washroom will notice.

So, Bathe on a regular basis.

Use a small amount of deodorant or cologne. A strong stench, even if it's from cologne or body spray, is unpleasant and might be objectionable.

Hair products are acceptable; however, hair gel should be avoided. This product can be sticky and harden with time, giving your hair a stiff appearance. You can also come across as "greasy" inadvertently.


2.) WEAR WELL-TAILORED OUTFITS


Avoid fashion disasters by wearing clothes that fit your body properly, avoiding flashy attire, and avoiding fashion "faux pas" (e.g., baseball hats cocked slightly to the side). A simpler wardrobe will focus attention on you rather than your clothes, which will alter your appearance. You'll seem nice and gentlemanly if you keep it simple.

It's critical to wear pants that are the right size for you. Make sure your pants are held up with a basic belt to indicate that you've given your outfit a lot of thought.

Make sure you are fitted for a suit instead of choosing one out yourself the next time you need one. A good gentleman takes pride in his appearance and goes out of his way to dress in well-fitting clothing. Wearing a suit that fits you properly rather than one that is one, two, or even three sizes too big can also demonstrate that you put thought into your appearance.

Make sure your shoes are always clean. Some individuals believe that the first thing a lady notices is her shoes.

Subdued blacks, greys, blues, and browns are best. In moderation, a gentleman can wear any colour (he can even wear a jacket and trousers), but the classic colours for men are not vivid.

For males, classic clothing is the way to go. Suits, oxford-style shirts, khaki pants, jackets, and jeans are examples.

Wear athletic clothing solely when working out or participating in sports. When climbing across the Alps, preparing for his black belt, or playing tennis, a gentleman will not wear his suit.


3.) BE THE MOST POLITE


Prepare to ask questions or make courteous statements such as "How was your day?" "May I assist you?" "Let me grab that for you," or "I'll handle that." No matter how rushed you are, learn to speak slowly and thoughtfully and to take the time to truly communicate to people in a respectful manner. Make an effort to smile, be polite, and make fascinating small chats about how your day is going, whether you're talking to your neighbour or the gorgeous lady in your physics class. A gentleman does not rush into things and instead spends his time getting to know others.


4.) GROOM YOURSELF LIKE A KING


To be a true gentleman, you must ensure that your hair is combed on a regular basis and that you either shave your facial hair or keep a great, strong beard. You'll seem sloppy if you don't remove your stubble and opt for a beautiful clean shave every morning. If your hair gets windswept or loses volume after a long day, keep a comb on hand to run through it (in private).

It makes a difference even if your nails are clean. To keep your hands looking neat, clean under your fingernails and trim them every day or two.

To preserve a manicured appearance, trim any projecting nose hairs.



Being a gentleman used to come with a set of highly rigorous norms that were instilled in every upper-class boy's life from a young age. Such restrictions did not apply to lower-class boys. Being a gentleman, on the other hand, offers a lot of advantages; it surprises modern women and makes them think twice. This is preferable to breaking your arm as a result of bravado, so think about it.

Let's clear the air on what it means to be a gentleman: wearing a suit, polishing your shoes, having soft hands, and being dull. A man should be a gentleman in order to feel better about himself and to be able to balance the harshness with a gentler side. It does not have to be either/or.

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